Carmen- sounds like you and DH could have a chat about your priorities? Are they still the same? Have they changed? Does DH know what you would like of him? It is so tricky after having a bub as things change so much it is normal to have disagreements etc that you may not have had before. I know you are saving for your dream home but it seems to be causing a huge amount of stress for both of you. Could you delay your dream home goals by a year or two to allow DH to spend time with Nicky while she is young and also to nurture your relationship together?
By the way I have stopped asking DH to get to bed. I go when I am ready and if he wants to sit up and watch TV to 1am he does and he bears the consequences the next day. I figured that I am his wife not his mother! So now I don't say anything!
Do you want to share what you are finding rough everyday?