thank you so much for your replies, i feel so much better now...
i saw my doctor and she has given me a referral to a physio... she said i should expect things to get better in the next two weeks... she also said they wouldn't really consider it a 'problem' until 3 months of pelvic floor exercises had been done... i am so hopeless at doing these, i can do them lying down, but sitting or standing - i can't even feel what i am doing!
she also said to stop going to the toilet just in case, as this could lead to big problems of my bladder shrinking etc... the thing is, i try to fill my bladder up but it just leaks out, its like it will not fill up.
oh well i suppose i will just keep trying the exercises and wait to see what the physio says... hopefully things improve...
thanks again.