I have no idea about what's normal for cankles but I remember that by the time I left hospital I had smaller feet and I'm pretty sure that 2 weeks on I could see my feet again - that was after swelling so bad I couldn't even fit into my flip-flops. I would ring your midwives about that and ask if it's normal.

It's normal to feel really emotional but if it's getting so bad you can't cope you should see a Dr or talk to your MCHN.