Thank you for your loving and reassuring post. I was just a bit down as I told them I was getting a 4D scan and participating in a study to try and help predict problem births before they arise and instead of "oh wow how exciting" it was a "why would you do that to your child? don't you know how bad those scans are just because you can't wait another week or two to see him" and got told how selfish I was being putting my baby at risk to all these "unnatural energies". Was just a little disheartening.

I have thought about expressing to put "boob in a bottle" but I'd really like Ryan to have at least one formula bottle a day just to make sure if I'm lacking some vitamins in booby milk it's in the formula and also have it as something Dad2be can do if I'm not here so he feels more involved as well as he can "make" the food in a sense, if that makes sense?

I know it's just their beliefs, and they want the best for me, and I appreciate that is their opinion but it's still hurtful to have it implied your a bad mum before your bubs is even born . As I told them I have a guaranteed job over christmas break we need that money to help us survive a bit better, 2-3 months in daycare then 1 day a week to keep Ryan used to daycare and stop mum having a mental breakdown won't turn him into a mental case. I'm thinking I won't be talking to a fair few of them till after I finish work, I'm sick of being told "you can't chose when you want to be a mum and put him away when you have other things to do" don't need the extra stress..