EMMA, ... I think the same things ... In fact I 'selfishly' worry what if something happens to my daughter ... I truely could not see myself coping at any point in that kind of life & getting on with it.

I would just simply want to ' be with ' my daughter.

I feel dreadful at times that I think about my coping more without her rather than her without me. Maybe because I know she would have her Daddy & so many other family members that absolutely deeply love & care for her.

I strangely enough I don't worry about her future as much as I thought I would because I know as long as she has me she can learn from my own life experiences especially as a woman, eg in relationships, careers, health issues, & heaps more ....

I didn't have any support from my own folks in the worst of situations, so I find enormous comfort that her Daddy & I will always be her safety net in life.

... I too have been touched with " Jane's " passing ... as I too am 42.

I would feel far to young to have to go now if I had to. Sadly my 27 year old SIL was diagnosed with breast cancer only this past March & going through chemo. I too had a scare at 34. She has taught me without knowing it not to fear death. What a priceless gift she has given me considering we were never actually close