I think it depends on what you believe. I don't believe that God takes babies from us. I think sometimes bad things happen and it's hard to see why they happen to us, but I don't believe that God curses us by killing our children or making us ill.

There have been days I have been so ill I cannot get out of bed and cannot function. That isn't God's fault. It's hard sometimes to thank God when you want to scream and curse, but even when you come to terms with it, you don't have to thank God for it. Maybe think "well, I learnt to appreciate my health more" or "well, I learnt that life is very, very precious - more so than I could ever have known before" - but acknowledging the lesson we get out of it doesn't mean we have to like the way it was delivered.