A thought on death - might upset/offend some

[sconeonamission]

I agree in the theory, yet it hasn't happened (that I'm aware of) within our family.

[Teeki]

I used to believe that a new baby couldn't be born unless someone had died (not necessarily related) because I believed in reincarnation of the soul. But then I learnt about population growth, and my manager told me that in 1950 the world population was around 2.5 billion and it's now around 6.5 billion. So an extra 4 billion souls have come from somewhere!!

But within families, I do believe that if a family member dies they will help you on your way with TTC or birth (why wouldn't they? If they could have helped whilst they were alive they would have).

ZF, I love your story about your Grandma. She would have loved hearing that you were having a little girl named after her - no doubt she was very peaceful after that and went easily

[Miss.September]

We had that in our family over the past few years. As soon as a pregnancy was announced in a grandchild, we'd lose a grandparent. My grandfather was one of 12 and it seemed that it was happening constantly there, we lost him also as soon as his first great grandchild was announced. It didn't happen exactly like that with me, but when I fell pg the first time, my nan was diagnosed with cancer just before that. I m/c, she was given the all clear. I fell pg again, and ten months after DD was born, my nan died. I hate things like this, I know how you feel

[Indadhanu]

I had a lot of people telling me this when Jazz was born (my grandfather passed away two days before she was born). My dad tried to convince me that he'd been reincarnated... I do believe in reincarnation, although I also believe life begins at conception, and that after death the chances are that souls will move on to on of the other 31 temporary realms before returning to this one. I do think that he hung around for a long time though... a few weeks at least where I could feel his presence and I think Jazz could as well.
(and KTee, a bit of a side topic, but if you believed reincarnation from a Buddhist perspective, the 'extra' souls have come from the other realms )

He always did say he'd never live to see his great grandchild. I always said, throughout my pregnancy "See! Yes you will!". Guess he was right unfortunately. But he always knew... from before I could remember, he knew. He was diagnosed with an agressive form of blood cancer 3 months before he passed away (never told any of us though ), so not something you can really predict or bring on either.

[Teeki]

I had a lot of people telling me this when Jazz was born (my grandfather passed away two days before she was born). My dad tried to convince me that he'd been reincarnated... I do believe in reincarnation, although I also believe life begins at conception, and that after death the chances are that souls will move on to on of the other 31 temporary realms before returning to this one. I do think that he hung around for a long time though... a few weeks at least where I could feel his presence and I think Jazz could as well.
(and KTee, a bit of a side topic, but if you believed reincarnation from a Buddhist perspective, the 'extra' souls have come from the other realms )

He always did say he'd never live to see his great grandchild. I always said, throughout my pregnancy "See! Yes you will!". Guess he was right unfortunately. But he always knew... from before I could remember, he knew.

Ah, that makes sense to me! I have always believed in reincarnation but never really researched anything enough to work out where the 'extras' were coming from. Thanks for that, might start doing some looking

[tellytubby]

Zara - gave me goosebumps too..
Leasha - I remember reading your birth story what feels like forever ago. You were very close to your grandad, right? Do you still feel his presence?? I like to think that somehow our loved ones are watching over us all, keeping tabs.. I really miss my grandad too... we were also close

Sorry, got off topic there

Nae, glad I gave you a chuckle thinking about your friend x

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Ahh my nan was watching me and this thread i think... last night i had a dream she was talking to DD1, sitting on the end of her bed having a chat with her, i woke up and silence, then out of nowhere DD1 was 'chatting' to herself.. the dogs barked, scared her and she started screaming....

So i say "hello nan"

This happened when DD1 was little aswell, i dreamt nan was standing over her bassinet, i woke up looked and nothing was there, went back to sleep woke up again and DD1 was talking to herself and i am positive i 'saw' someone leave!

[ladybird11]

I haven't read everyones responses, but.....

I do agree with the one person dies for another to be born. My Mum passed away in April this year and I got pg in July. I'm secretly hoping for a girl too for this reason, may sound odd or corny, but if we had a girl i would be convinced a bit of my Mum would be in her....IYKWIM?

[Beautiful Disaster]

I dont believe that it even has to be within a family. My god mother died of breast cancer I think and too this day i think that it was her leaving that allowed a special friend to fall preg after trying sooo many things. I thank her all the time and having her middle name im reminded of her everytime i have to give my full name. The fact her and i shared a fav colour and she was buried in a coffin of that colour makes our bond stonger.

So yes I do believe in that 100%

[Indadhanu]

tellytubby, We were very close, we lived with him for 15 years of my life, so a lot closer than most people would be to their grandparents I think.
No I don't feel his presence anymore. Not for almost two years now. I think he has moved on now, I don't feel that he is even in this world anymore, probably reborn into another.

[Heaven]

Yikes, wouldn't want to be related to the duggars

Now I think about it when I was pregnant with DD my Pop died and now I am pregnant again DH's grandfather died a few weeks ago. When I was pregnant with DD I had a dream my Pop told me she was a girl and what her name was. I think it was an unfortunate coincidence that they died at that time but I like to think of them watching over my babies.

[Freya]

A thought about relatives dying after a baby was conceived but before birth (because I believe the soul is already there or atleast waiting at conception)..........

Maybe that relative is supposed to be the soul that guides the new soul (baby) into the world. I dont truly believe that anyone is ever alone at the time of birth or death. Some other soul is there to ease the transition, whether they are a relative or a 'stranger'.