Hi All,

We're in a bit of an awkward situation.
We are having the first grandchild on both sides and we've decided not to christen our child as
a) we are not married
b) I am a lapsed catholic and Daniel is a lapsed BA Christian.

Now his parents are fine with this as they do not christen infants in their religion and they respect our opinion that kids should be exposed to religion but should ultimately be able to make their own choices when they are able to.

My parents are HORRIFIED!!

I was baptised a catholic and went through the catholic education system, my brother was also baptised but has never had an religious education and doesn't even know how to do the sign of the cross (he's 15) and my parents haven't set foot in a church for over a decade ....lol

But they are carrying on like pork chops even getting to the point of being abusive because we have decided not to baptise our child into the catholic faith - a faith that I don't personally identify with.

I've tried explaining to my parents that they won't baptise an illegitimate child ... . so they went and found a church that WOULD!

How can I help them to understand my choice without offending them?

TIA