It seems so sucky at times hey.

I'm pretty much with Eugenia, that we are given free will - I do believe that God can intervene, and as for why he does some times and not others...I guess that's where I just have faith that God has his reasons ('As for God, his way is perfect, the Word of the Lord is flawless' Psalm 18:30).

And I think one of the reasons we have free will (I'm sure there are many, and the bible does say 'who has known the mind of the Lord' in Romans 11:34 so I could be way off) is because God wants us to love him, but of our own accord - imagine if someone like your partner only loved you because they had to. I don't know if it would mean as much if my husband loved me because he was forced to, if the decision didn't come from him - a bit like when as kids we cleaned our rooms under duress, or we cleaned our rooms of our own accord - I know which one meant more to my mum!