Glimmer - I know how you feel. I have had two miscarriages within the last 12 months. We too have been told that they can't find a cause. So confusing. I can't helping thinking about the baby that 'should' be 5 months old now or the pregnancy that I 'should' be almost half way through now. It's devastating and each day is a challenge, and at times it takes all of my courage even just to get out of bed. When I was pregnant would wake each day knowing that little person was in my tummy - absolutely amazing feeling - it was like the sun was shining brighter, and the sky was the prettiest shade of blue. I think the important thing to remember is that we loved our babies even though we never met them. And just because we didn't get to meet our babies doesn't mean we didn't love them any less than we would have if we'd got to meet them. Everyone has their own way of coping, I planted two Magnolia trees in our front yard for our little angel babies. As I watch them grow I feel like every bloom is giving me back the strength to face each day an the strength to try again.

I changed my daily routine a bit just so things felt different, even just shopping at a different supermarket seemed to help. I was feeling like everytime I turned around there was a constant reminder about when I was pregnant or what our plans were when I was pregnant. I even got rid of some of my old clothes that were reminding me of when I was pregnant - especially the clothes I wore to the hosp for D&C. Was also a good excuse for a bit of retail therapy.

Don't set yourself deadlines of when you want to be pregnant again because they will only add to your list of 'sad dates' as I call them.

As for our husbands understanding us - I'm still working on that one too. Sometimes words just don't do enough - I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I don't expect what I've written will make you feel better but sometimes having someone to relate to is comforting in itself.

Take care, try not to be too hard on yourself. Sorry my post is so long. I sincerely hope you hold a precious baby in your arms soon.