3rd MC in 10 months how do you find the strength to get through it all.

**LionsandBears** · March 4th, 2011, 10:22 AM

Ouch - that's awful. What a horrible thing to say!

It does remind me. DH and I both had karotyping (chromosome analysis) to check if there was a genetic reason for m/c. Something like a balanced translocation can cause recurring m/c. It's an expensive test but may be something worth looking at (about $400 pp). Did you have bub tested?

**Diamond Girl** · March 4th, 2011, 01:51 PM

Im so sorry for your losses. My first angel had passed before we saw the heartbeat but we heard a perfectly healthy heartbeat just two weeks before I lost the second. Its so hard and Im glad you are getting tested.

How dare that Dr blame your partner! Im sure he is going through enough!

**Yas** · March 4th, 2011, 03:29 PM

Clairesmummy- Can you find out what test came back abnormal? My advise is to get copies of all the tests you have had done and keep them for your records, and take them to your FS.
Hun, your doctor is an *******. I would swap doctors hun.
I understand how upset and confusing it is to see a HB and then have them pass away shortly after. I seen lily's heartbeat 5 days before she passed, and everything looked normal with her (turns out everything was normal) but i didn't know she had gone until 3 weeks later.
Hun, i think you just need lots of

right now, especially after your horrible doctors comments, and i think we're all happy to give them to you

Hope you get a good nights rest and peaceful dreams xoxox

**minniemouse** · March 4th, 2011, 05:24 PM

hun big hugs from me also, i am appalled the dr said that to you, he should be encouraging you to rely on your partner for support not suggesting blaming each other for something you have no control over, im so angry to hear that happened to you

**Rach75** · March 4th, 2011, 06:04 PM

I know I have posted this many times before but it was sent to me during some of my lowest of lows with my losses it helped me to reflect to take a step back I dont know if it will help you but it has a wonderful meaning behind

Frankly, if the truth be known, I think God has singled me out for a special treatment. I think God meant for me to build a thirst for a child so strong and so deep that when that baby is finally placed in my arms, it will be the longest, coolest, most refreshing drink I've ever known.