Thankyou all for your kind words and well wishes.
Sorry I hav`nt replied earlier but just was`nt up to getting online.
Tash I`m so sorry you had to go through this also, its a terrible thing to deal with.
Sometimes I feel bad because my baby was only 9 weeks and there are so many ladies out there who have lost ther babies later in the pregnancy and I wonder if the pain that I have felt would be so much more severe, I dont know but it makes me cry every time I read or hear about the loss of another baby.
Thanks again for being here and as much as I wish it did`nt have to be this way, I`m greatful that there are others that know what what we are going through.
All the best for the future...
I know exactly what you mean when you say you think about other women who lose babies later in their pregnancy and whether or not they have more right to grieve. When I lost my little boy (stillborn) I got "useful" comments like 'It's a good thing you didn't get to know him, it would be harder for people who lose an older child'. I think you and I and every other person who has shared their story on this forum knows however that there is no feeling like losing a child, no matter what time you had the misfortune of losing him/her. Be it 5 days, 5 weeks, 5 months into the pregnancy, you have that special bond with the child, as you are dreaminig of who he/she will grow into. Keep visiting this site and keep talking to others who understand - you cannot put a limit on how much you should grieve, just know that there are others out there who understand and draw strength from your sharing.