Sweetheart, this is SO not your fault I don't know why it happens so often to so many women, and I understand completely your not wanting to tell your DH. I know I didn't want to with my latest one, I didn't want to tell him I was pregnant because I knew it would only end. Why upset two people? He can't do anything, and he'll only feel helpless.

But then I realised that while I was losing yet another beloved child - so was he. He was the Father. I decided that he deserved to know, and that my child deserved to be grieved by BOTH of its parents. Yes, it was hard. I think it was harder still because I hadn't quite accepted it myself, both that I was pregnant and that I was losing it again. Saying it out loud made it real, and cut me like a knife. But it allowed the grieving, and eventually the healing to start, for both of us.

PM me anytime dalr