Hi mummytwo - very sorry for your loss, m/c is such a difficult thing to go through

I once had a blighted ovum at 8 weeks, and although I m/c naturally, the cramps were pretty bad. So I'm unsure if the pessary's would be more painful or not. But I would choose them over a surgical procedure like d&c if I was given the choice. Sorry, not much help.

Hope whatever you choose goes ok for you- you are in my thoughts