Blighted Ovum - inducing miscarriage

[tempus moriendi]

I don't have any advice. Just want to say I'm sorry for your loss and pain and I'll be praying for you.

[HH Mama]

Hi Mummy Two. I recently had a blighted ovum for my first preg (in DEc) that was picked up at my first ob appt at week 11. it was devastating. I had to wait a week for a D&C which was an awful time. The D&C was quick, painless and i think very good at giving me the opportunity to say goodbye to our little one. I got an infection from some tissue that had been deeply embedded and had to have a second D&C a week later. It was an exhausting experience but i remember the few mins before my first surgery, and being able to say goodbye to my baby. I dont think any option is easy (and perhaps you've made your choice now!) but i found it really really important to have a clear cut time to say goodbye and start to grieve. The hospital staff are usually really supportive and understanding, which i found really great as many of our friends were not.

this is an awful, grieving time and my thoughts are with you. Please feel free to ask for any help and advise. im not sure how much i can offer but i truly understand how you feel. its a very personal and private time.

[nelly]

Hi Mummy Two

I am really sorry for your news - I know how gutting it can be to find your pg is not "normal".

I had a D&C in Nov 2005 after my pg was diagnosed as molar at 11 wks. There was no option to not to D&C due to various reasons and I had my procedure the next day.

I found it really simple and quick, the hospital staff were amazing - I was a mess and was basically sobbing the whole time before the procedure - and my OB was amazing.... I remember my DH telling me he gave him a hug once I went into the OT.

Anyway I digress - in terms of physical recovery I had no cramping very little spotting and I found it easier to cope with the loss. In comparison my sister miscarried at 6 weeks and found it painful and protracted but everyone has a different experience.

Good luck with your decision.