Ectopic pregnancy and loss

[chepie]

Hi sweetie,

I am ever so very sorry for your loss... I had a ruptured ectopic and I lost my right tube... I understand how scary that must have been for you :hugs: Mine happened so very quickly too... Please give yourself time to heal... I too got so angry/sad/upset/rage ... wishing you and your DH all the best on your journey xxx

[Possums]

Thank you. I hope one day I will celebrating good news on here and we will have a little one of our own.

[jen805]

Possums--Though I've never had an ectopic pregnancy, the pain of losing a child is the same. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. Glad you found bb, and hope it's helpful in helping you cope. That's why we're all here--we all feel and understand your pain. Be kind to yourself right now and give yourself time to heal. You're in my prayers....

[Possums]

Thank you so much. I think the hardest thing has been coping with the loss of the baby and the apparent loss of our chances of conceiving naturally and being referred to IVF, and of course healing from surgery at the same time. I am getting better bit by bit and trying hard to be positive.
I do however feel like everything in my life right now is defined by this, revolves around this experience. I don't feel happy, i feel flat and sad. I find it hard because I am a control freak and yet am now totally out of control of so many factors and scared of what IVF will involve.
Anyway, will keep moving forward and trying to be optimisitic.
Thanks again for the support. I know so many others on here have suffered loss also.

[LisaL]

Possums sweety, I am so sorry for the loss of your precious little baby.

I too had an ectopic pg in the right tube at 9wks. My tube was also removed. It was very difficult and confusing time. I was very angry and totally guted, firstly by the loss of my precious baby and secondly at the loss of part of me that I needed to get pg again. It took me a long time to deal with the grief, hurt and emptiness. But through my good gal pals at BB, lots of faith and hope, I kept going. I went to a Naturopath and kept thinking positive thoughts. I ended up pg again (one early loss in between) and when I went for an early ultrasound I asked which side I had ovulated from, the sonographer and specialist were suprised to find out my RIGHT ovary was responsible for the release of the egg that resulted in my daughter!! ALthough I had no tube, my body worked around that and the egg found its way into my womb.

I want to wish you all the very best for your IVF journey, and I also want to tell you that you should perhaps just investigate some complementary therapies that will help optimise your chances whilst doing IVF.

Give yourself time to grieve my sweety, but dont loose sight of the bigger picture. And remember that your little angel baby will always be with you.

Hugs and baby blessings,
Lisa

[Possums]

Thanks for your advice and support. I am so thrilled for you that you had success, and from the right ovary! I can imagine your joy and relief.
And yes, I do see a naturopath and also have acupuncture- might as well get help from as many avenues as possible!

[fourfires]

Hi Possums

I am so sorry to read that you have had an ectopic, lost your precious baby and your tube, it is a truly devastating experience.

I had an Ectopic in January 2005, it was originally misdiagnosed as a blighted ovum, i had a d/c and then a couple of days later another scan to reveal my little baby in my right tube. Sadly my baby was still alive and we heard it's heartbeat on the scan, i was sent to hospital and my tube ruptured shortly before theatre. I was 9w2d. In September 2004, I had a missed m/c as well. I lost my right tube and was quite sick.

I remember feeling just awful, grief stricken, guilty, sad and just unable to cope with minor things. Going back to work was horrendous, as i went back when i should have been starting mat leave for my the baby i m/c.

I also found that a lot of people just didnt understand, people wouldnt talk to me about the ectopic and they avoided me and said they were walking on eggshells around me.....to the point i got told to snap out of it.....I tried some counselling with some of the support groups available, but i felt i didnt fit in. I then had one/one counselling.....and it helped a lot.

It took a lot of time to start feeling better both emotionally and physically and reflecting back i think you can only take it day by day.

I started TTC 4m after the EP and i now have a gorgeous adorable almost 2 year old.........conceived with one tube. I already had 2 other children

I send you lots of support and hope that before too long you are holding your precious baby.

Bendos