Feel so lost and adrift

[Leemar]

I am sorry for your loss

[diannescruffy]

Hi,
So sorry to hear of your loss. This is just devastating for you at the moment, let yourself grieve.
Welcome to BB you will find lots of comfort here.
Your angel baby will be in your heart forever.

Regards,
Dianne

[~ Mylitta ~]

Dear Heather,

I am terribly sorry about the loss of your angel.

Don't feel pressured into trying to "speed up" your grieving process in order to get back to "normal". Take as much time as you need to grieve and do whatever eases your pain, be it screaming, crying, laughing or just laying in bed and reflecting. No one can know how you are feeling but you.

My thoughts are with you, your DH and your son

[SamiH]

Hi Heather - I am so sorry for your loss.

Like you - I found this site when I was grieving for my second angel. I had absolutely NO idea that missed m/c was unfortunately as common as it is. Knowing that there were many, many ladies out there who had experienced a similar time in their life and then gone on to have a baby in their arms - it was and still is soooo inspiring.

good luck to you hun

[Hease105]

Thank you so much for the support. I am getting tiny stretches where i feel a little bit better - and then it just takes me to my knees again. I have reached out and am getting some therapeutic help - that starts on Monday.

I don't know how to describe the band of pain and rage and sadness that is 'round my heart right now - I almost feel it physically.

I've never been this low in my life. When my "coping" mechanisms kick in - I'm good until I remember that "once there was a baby and now there isn't" and that dissolves me. It is the "I'm now empty - literally" that has built a seemingly insurmountable wall....

I so appreciate that I can write these feelings down - to people who understand them and I don't need to explain myself nor put on a front.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

[jen805]

Aww, Heather, my heart breaks for you! I'm so very sorry for the loss of your precious angel baby! I SO know how you're feeling right now... the anger, pain, sadness, the complete and utter emptiness, that feeling of being "robbed"... The worst part is being incapable of shutting off your mind... Unfortunately we know this pain all too well! It's such a bumpy rollercoaster ride, with so many ups and downs! Some days will be better than others... You just have to try to remember that it's not your fault--you didn't do anything to cause this...and it WILL get better!

This site, literally, was my saving grace! I've met SO many great women here, and have made so many friends... while you would never wish it upon anyone else, it's a comfort knowing you're not alone... and that there are people that understand--and you don't have to put up a front, pretending to be ok, when you're not. Please feel free to vent, yell, scream... we'll cry with you and help you to pick the pieces up again! I you find the support you need here at BB! Big, big