Oh hun - Im so sorry for your loss Could you talk to your girlfriend and explain that you dont think you will be able to go but maybe you could go out with just her later on for lunch or something and you could give her a little gift then? That way you can privately and personally let her know how you feel without having to be there for the shower where it might be oo painful.
Im sure she will understand as your loss is so recent.
Good luck.
Nessie I am so sorry for your loss Did you name your son? I lost my son last November at 37 weeks to a cord accident. He was born with the cord around his neck twice. It is just so devastating to think that the very thing that is supposed to give them life, so cruelly takes it away. My heart, love and tears go out to you and your family during this heartbreaking time.
Me personally believe that your friend sending you an invitation was insensitive. She could have perhaps told you about it and give you the opportunity to attend if you wish. By sending an invite it is like she expects you to be there. As your pain is so raw (you only lost your son 3 weeks ago), she must understand how you are feeling and understand that you may not be able to attend the shower. If you don't attend, you are not a bad friend. You need to put your feelings first at the moment to protect your emotions. If she is a good friend, she will understand.
Take time to grieve and look after yourself - this is such a difficult time for you. Thinking of you
Yes Lynn, we named him Daniel, but we didn't have a funeral as we have other stressful things going on in our family (brother-in-law very ill with Cancer). so sorry to hear about your son too. I didnt realise this (cord accident) could happen during pregnancy I only thought it happened during a labour. It was a very big shock. Doctor said it is very rare and four times around the neck is even more rare. (it was wrapped around four times).
It was my friends Mum who sent the invite, but I would still presume everyone knows. Bad news travels fast. My husband phoned one close friend to let her know and the next day another friend was on my doorstep crying with flowers. She meant well but I would rather have been left alone. It was only 3 days after the birth. I dont think I really can attend as its just too soon.
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Could you talk to your girlfriend and explain that you dont think you will be able to go but maybe you could go out with just her later on for lunch or something and you could give her a little gift then? That way you can privately and personally let her know how you feel without having to be there for the shower where it might be oo painful.
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