Nessie I am so sorry for your loss Did you name your son? I lost my son last November at 37 weeks to a cord accident. He was born with the cord around his neck twice. It is just so devastating to think that the very thing that is supposed to give them life, so cruelly takes it away. My heart, love and tears go out to you and your family during this heartbreaking time.

Me personally believe that your friend sending you an invitation was insensitive. She could have perhaps told you about it and give you the opportunity to attend if you wish. By sending an invite it is like she expects you to be there. As your pain is so raw (you only lost your son 3 weeks ago), she must understand how you are feeling and understand that you may not be able to attend the shower. If you don't attend, you are not a bad friend. You need to put your feelings first at the moment to protect your emotions. If she is a good friend, she will understand.

Take time to grieve and look after yourself - this is such a difficult time for you. Thinking of you