I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Daniel.
I lost my son Luke at 16 weeks due to a cord accident. Went for a routine U/S only to hear the dreaded words "I'm sorry to tell you but....". By his size they judged that it had only happened about 24 hours prior to the U/S.
My thoughts are with you. Regarding the baby shower, you must do what feels right for you and your wellbeing. It is important to care for yourself at this time which can mean making decisions that may upset other people. But true friends will understand if you decide to not go.
Be gentle to yourself.
A big hug coming your way,
Debbie
I don't think it would be rude at all by not attending the shower.
My wife and I haven't really included ourselves in anything "kid" related (no zoos, parks..baby showers) since our daughter passed away on delivery day. And all of our friends realize what's going on...they know we are not avoiding them in bad spirits.
And we can relate with the bad news traveling quickly...though sometimes not fast enough. The morning after delivery day (stillborn) our neighbors came over with baby gifts and toys. Advised them of the bad news and a few hours later, the same neighbors brought flowers. That was a little awkward.
Simple face is, you get to do what you want. Healing comes first...
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