I am so sorry for the loss of your precious Daniel.
I lost my son Luke at 16 weeks due to a cord accident. Went for a routine U/S only to hear the dreaded words "I'm sorry to tell you but....". By his size they judged that it had only happened about 24 hours prior to the U/S.

My thoughts are with you. Regarding the baby shower, you must do what feels right for you and your wellbeing. It is important to care for yourself at this time which can mean making decisions that may upset other people. But true friends will understand if you decide to not go.

Be gentle to yourself.
A big hug coming your way,
Debbie