Hi Sniffy,

I am so so sorry for your sad loss. Your feelings are totally normal. I was also devastated. It takes time. I am not 'over it' but it does get a little easier to deal with.
I also have PCOS - and dont believe whoever told you that you'll never get pregnant. There are so many women on this site with the same disorder. Sure, it can make it more difficult - but far from impossible. If you case is severe, then may I suggest a visit to an endocrinologist. I was seeing one for Thyroid and he diagnosed my PCOS and is also treating that.
With regards to food, you have to avoid soft cheese, raw fish etc. You will find a list of these foods somewhere on this site and I am sure someone will be kind enough to send you the link - sadly I am too unco-ordinated...
Take your time to grieve...there is no time limit.