goodbye babies

[loumick1]

we got pregnant first attempt, went to our first dating scan and were told that we were having twins. it all seemed to happen too easy.

unfortunately it wasn't going to be that simple. we miscarried on monday (9 weeks 3 days) and on tuesday had the curette. i had no idea that losing our two little unborn babies was going to be so hard. i have to go back to work tomorrow and while sometimes i am ok, i spend an awful lot if time crying. hubby is v. supportive and i am sure he is hurting too but half the time i feel like i am overreacting about this. when will it start to feel ok again?

[shellbell]

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Give yourself time to grieve. :hugs: I hope things get easier for you soon.

[blackduckies]

It is really hard to deal with< I have experienced 6 miscarriages, 3 late first trimester and 3 early. My experience is when you start to TTC again things start to feel a bit better , but you have to wait until you feel emotionally ready. It is always good to talk, especially to people who understand, it will help to have a look around here and talk to others, and the best thing is you can say what you need to and no -one is going to judge you. Hope your first day at work is not too difficult. Hugs and best wishes Pam.

[rosehannah]

I'm sorry for the loss of your precious little ones, sometimes life just doesn't feel fair. If your like me I will always feel sad and my heart aches when I think of my angel baby. I found now (5 years later) that I don't think about it everyday but it is still painful, and I give my kids lots of love and am thankful for each day I have with them.

[kas]

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your babies. Unfortunately, i don't think you can put a time limit on the grieving process. You will no doubt be feeling a lot of different emotions for a while, and there will be good and bays days but never think you are overreacting as you had started to form a bond and be protective of your babies and it is only natural you are feeling their loss. I am glad to hear your DH is supportive even as he comes to terms with this as well.:hugs:

[munchy]

Honey

i am so sorry to hear of the losses of your babies and it is such a hard thing to go through i just had my secound m/c and thought i was dealing with it really well and god i was so wrong i am a complete emotional wreck i am the same as you one min ok the next just crying you never get over something like this but the pain does get easier and you sort of carry on with life but with that always at the back of your mind but it does take time and everyone if different some people take months others take years just let yourself grieve and cry shout do whatever feels right for you i hope the pain easies for you soon take care honey.

Munchy xxx

[Brockstar]

:hugs: to you. All of us here know how hard it is and fully understand what you are going through. Unfortunately there is no magic potion, just time. And believe me, I understand how frustrating it is when people say 'time heals all wounds', because probably at the moment, you are feeling like time is standing still.

Just remember that all the emotions you are feeling are NORMAL. Eventually you will start having a good moment. Those good moments progress to good minutes, then on to good hours, and so and so forth.

Come on here and vent and cry and whinge and all that. That's what these threads are for - to help you through.

[Ellie]

I am so sorry for your loss...my heart goes out to you...take you time...it's a tough road xxx

[loumick1]

thankyou everyone for your words, it is nice to know that there are people out there that know what i am going through and that are telling me it is ok/normal to feel like this. i am still quite hurt/confused/angry/frustrated but know that it will slowly get better day by day. DH and I are buying two plants this weekend to plant in the garden for our lost babies.