sorry for the loss of your baby& your nephew.I'm a carer for my mum and i know sometimes it is hard to find time to go see councillors,i found the sids & kids helpline very supportive,it is a 24 hour telephone helpline.Hope your mum & dad see healthier days in 2010 & 2010 brings you some healing,the loss of a baby is absolutely devastating,guilt is a very common feeling after loss ,try to be kind to yourself,i found naming bub helped me,you could use a unisex name or nickname.