Oh honey my heart goes out to you so much i really wish i could give you a proper cuddle if the docs had told me they could have prevented what happened to my DD then i would be so furious and upset no words could describe how you must be feeling it sounds like you need a shoulder to cry on if only they had done that swab i bet thats all you keep thinking about and thinking if they had how everything could be so different right now i really feel for you honey and i ask myself the same question why me you never think things like this happen i think i was a little nieve before i lost my DD i thought it was easy to get pregnant as i fell with my son at just 18 by accident always the way and then fell with my angel in the first month of trying and i didnt think anything like whats happened to any of us would happen to me it has really opened up my eyes to the real world and now i just think negative all the time and think bad things are gonna happen which is why my anixety can be bad at times my counsellor said its all to do with what i went through she thinks i have post traumatic stress disorder not sure if i have said that already and also i have now being trying for another baby for 10 months i never thought it would ever take this long. i think you are right about the 20wk thing they should investigate no matter what as to us motheres it is never a fetus i hate that word it is a baby from day 1 my mother in law said something that hurt so bad she said to me that it was morbid to get pics of my little girl and that she doesnt see it as a baby its just a fetus which is why i hate that word if she only new how perfect my angel looked she had 10 finger and toes and her beautiful little face she was a perfect baby i am so sorry to ramble on i hope you dont mind.
You're not rambling on at all, you are still grieving too! Ive had people say things like that about her, that shes just a foetus! I hate that word too, she was far from a foetus. She was a baby, she was our baby girl. She had everything in place as we do but she was just really tiny. I just wish people would understand how much it really hurts!
That is so right they have everything in place just alot smaller i wish people would understand aswell it really upsets me when people say it was a featus if only they saw her they would soon change there minds they were our beautiful baby girls and nothing will change that. If you dont mind me asking did you get to cuddle you little girl and did you have pictures taken and the hand and footprints? i had all of that done i just wish i had more pictures of her to remember her buy i have shown alot of people her picture as i feel proud of her i understand that some people would rather keep it to themselves but i just wanted to show people how beautiful she was if you know what i mean.
Yep i got to hold her for about an hour. We also got piccys of her and hand and foot prints. Unfortunately the photos of her didnt turn out too good so i dont show them to anyone. It really hurt me when i first got them back cause the way the photos came out it made her look weird. It wasnt the way she actually looked.
that is so nice you got to spend time with her i spent about 2 hrs with my princess and some of the photos i have are not that good either i have 1 which is beautiful i didnt take any myself the midwife took them and printed them off at the hospital and put them in a memory book for me i just wish now i had taken some myself the thing with my angel was cos she had been dead inside me for 3 days her body had filled up with fluid so it sounds awful but if you moved her, her face would slightly swich about if you know what i mean so in some of the pics they are not good as her face looks slightly funny and i tend not to show people those ones as i think it doesnt look like her. i just wish i could have her in my arms nice and healthy it is so hard at times when i say to my DH how much i miss her and he doesnt understand but i miss everything about her i miss what could have been if that makes sense. but i think as long as we no how they looked thats all that matters as we will treasure them forever.
if the docs had told me they could have prevented what happened to my DD then i would be so furious and upset no words could describe how you must be feeling it sounds like you need a shoulder to cry on
if only they had done that swab i bet thats all you keep thinking about and thinking if they had how everything could be so different right now i really feel for you honey and i ask myself the same question why me you never think things like this happen i think i was a little nieve before i lost my DD i thought it was easy to get pregnant as i fell with my son at just 18 by accident always the way and then fell with my angel in the first month of trying and i didnt think anything like whats happened to any of us would happen to me it has really opened up my eyes to the real world and now i just think negative all the time and think bad things are gonna happen which is why my anixety can be bad at times my counsellor said its all to do with what i went through she thinks i have post traumatic stress disorder not sure if i have said that already and also i have now being trying for another baby for 10 months i never thought it would ever take this long. i think you are right about the 20wk thing they should investigate no matter what as to us motheres it is never a fetus i hate that word it is a baby from day 1 my mother in law said something that hurt so bad she said to me that it was morbid to get pics of my little girl and that she doesnt see it as a baby its just a fetus which is why i hate that word if she only new how perfect my angel looked she had 10 finger and toes and her beautiful little face she was a perfect baby i am so sorry to ramble on i hope you dont mind.
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I just wish people would understand how much it really hurts!
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