You're not overreacting. I think what you are feeling is normal. I lost a baby at 12wks in September last year. I still calculate how old he or she would have been (about the same age as the babies of two friends of mine). I think "I should have a 5mth old baby by now". I still find it hard to be around other people who are pregnant. I feel an ache when i see women with preggie bellies. Meanwhile i also, like you, am aware of how pg i should have been by now with the next baby i miscarried...about 14 wks. I don't have any clever answers for you. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone. It's ok to cry. I think your husband would understand too: From what you say you are not always the sad wife but rather you rarely let him see you are sad. Maybe it's ok to do that now and then? And i know what you mean about trying not to show it to the little one you already have... but hopefully there is also time when your DS is sleeping or busy when you can have time for you and don't have to make a 'brave face'. Be kind to yourself if you are not always up to actively supporting your friend. You can only do what you can do.