hun, its a horrible hell that no one should ever have to endure - but ride the hell wave you must, you must let yourself go through all the emotions, if you feel that ou must scream then scream - if you feel that you must cry and collapse in aheap then do it.
about a month after my second one i did just this, after a few glasses of wine, at a bbq.....
then i got counselling, which helped so much.
but i thought about them daily. only once i fell pregnant with my now 2 month old did i truly start to heal.
Em, I'm sorry for your loss and I know how horrible life must feel right now for you. Sending you big comfort hugs to help you on the rollercoaster ride you have ahead of you. Each of my m/c took some months to get over. Contributing to the TTCAML helped and reading stories of success - often! - helped too. Take care and be kind to yourself.
Em, I am so sorry to hear of the pain you are going through, and that this has happened.
I have just had my 2nd miscarriage, 4 days ago, and know how you are feeling.
I have been off work for a week, this time around I feel like the whole experience has affected me more. I feel more tired, more emotional and do not feel like myself. I have had cramping and backache which is not easing, although my bleeding has almost stopped.
I believe that you need time to heal, to cry, to talk about what you are going through.
Miscarriage is an experience that no-one should ever have to go through. Just know that we are here for you, and I really hope that you can take some time out for yourself.
Take care xx
DS- 16/07/2006 (2 1/2 years old)
M/C #1- 28/09/2008 @ 7 weeks
M/C #2- 04/02/2009 @ 9 weeks 6 days
Last edited by kath26; February 7th, 2009 at 03:22 PM.
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I don't know when to tell you that it gets better or goes back to normal. I had my m/c almost three weeks ago and I feel that i have good days and not so good days. You'll get through this ( I tell myself this all of the time) and things will get better, but you did lose a child - it's a horrible thing to deal with. This place, though has shown me I'm not alone and that is a great comfort. There are so many supportive people here who have such kind things to say. Hang in there.
Em, I'm so sorry for your loss. And you're right, no one deserves to go through it!
After I lost Jayvan I took about 5 weeks off work, I've been back for 4 weeks now and have only just started to feel like myself again. You will have good days and bad days as time progresses, the more time you give yourself, the further apart these days get. Now that we're TTC again I'm starting to feel a little more confident even though I'll be a comlete ball of nerves with my next preg!
Make sure you let yourself go through all your emotions, don't bottle them up because they'll bite you in the bum later! It's perfectly normal to well up at seeing babies and pregnant woman because it is totally unfair that this happens to some of us and not others.
And like Lee said, you do end up realising how special the time was you had with your little angel babies and accept what has been handed to you.
so sorry that you are going through this , i had an ectopic preg which i had surgery for two weeks ago, i understand totally what you are going through. i would also like to know at what stage i am going to feel better?? my scars from the surgery are a constant reminder of my lost angel...
Give yourself time to grieve and then you will have the strength to move on - this is what i am currently trying to do.
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