It's been about a week, and I have been in so much pain with the cramping and bleeding from my miscarriage. Everytime I feel the pain I get so angry, I was suppose to have a beautiful baby from this pregnancy not all this pain. I feel like no one around me understands, I don't know what to do, or how to feel. When does this get better? When will life start being somewhat normal again. When will I be able to smile without forcing it? I know so many women go through this, and my heart goes out to each an every one. No one should have to go through this. Can someone tell me though, how long did it take to get to a point where you felt like life goes on?
I really struggled after me mc too. I took about a month or so off work, and felt I just couldn't go anywhere in fear of seeing babies and pregnant mums because I was upset and angry (At the time my job also involved looking after babies, which I felt I just could not go back to so I even changed jobs!).
But the next cycle we conceived our daughter and then things started to feel better. The pain was still there but I had accepted what happened, and I started to think how lucky I was to have my little angel baby with me for even the 13 weeks or so that it was inside me. Although much too short, the time was still special and made me become a mummy.
Sending you all the strength you need to get through this..
hun, its a horrible hell that no one should ever have to endure - but ride the hell wave you must, you must let yourself go through all the emotions, if you feel that ou must scream then scream - if you feel that you must cry and collapse in aheap then do it.
about a month after my second one i did just this, after a few glasses of wine, at a bbq.....
then i got counselling, which helped so much.
but i thought about them daily. only once i fell pregnant with my now 2 month old did i truly start to heal.
Em, I'm sorry for your loss and I know how horrible life must feel right now for you. Sending you big comfort hugs to help you on the rollercoaster ride you have ahead of you. Each of my m/c took some months to get over. Contributing to the TTCAML helped and reading stories of success - often! - helped too. Take care and be kind to yourself.
Em, I'm so sorry for your loss. And you're right, no one deserves to go through it!
After I lost Jayvan I took about 5 weeks off work, I've been back for 4 weeks now and have only just started to feel like myself again. You will have good days and bad days as time progresses, the more time you give yourself, the further apart these days get. Now that we're TTC again I'm starting to feel a little more confident even though I'll be a comlete ball of nerves with my next preg!
Make sure you let yourself go through all your emotions, don't bottle them up because they'll bite you in the bum later! It's perfectly normal to well up at seeing babies and pregnant woman because it is totally unfair that this happens to some of us and not others.
And like Lee said, you do end up realising how special the time was you had with your little angel babies and accept what has been handed to you.
so sorry that you are going through this , i had an ectopic preg which i had surgery for two weeks ago, i understand totally what you are going through. i would also like to know at what stage i am going to feel better?? my scars from the surgery are a constant reminder of my lost angel...
Give yourself time to grieve and then you will have the strength to move on - this is what i am currently trying to do.
I'm so angry
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