sorry to hear about your loss.. sounds like your family are a great support network.. i found talking/typing on these forums to be of great help - i'm sure you will too.
I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. I too met someone late, when I was 39. I was 40 when we married. We were immensely fortunate to get pregnant soon after and have a reasonably healthy pregnancy and a beautiful daughter. Now 43, we recently attempted to add to the family and after eight months of trying I got pregnant only to lose the baby in very similar circumstances to yourself. I feel I lost this baby because my cycle had become irregular and I was ovulating late in the cycle which is often a lesser quality egg. My recent miscarriage seems to have helped regulate my cycle and I got pregnant again the second cycle after my loss. I feel this baby has a better chance because it wasn't a late ovulation. I'm only about 5 weeks but very hopeful.
I also felt foolish that I told everyone when I was about 10 weeks only to have to tell them a week later that it was gone. I found it easier to text people I knew and to ask good friends to tell other people while I wasn't there so that everyone would know without my having to say things. Have a line ready to say to people if they want to offer condolences so you don't have to get emotional and think about your words.
And remember, this was an awful loss for you but it doesn't mean that any subsequent pregnancy would be the same. If you still want a family you are young enough to try again.
Thanks for the kind welcome. I'm probably going back to work tomorrow, and I'm hoping that I can cope. The cramping and bleeding aren't as bad as they were before, and I don't have much paid time off left to use. I'll have to practice some response for any condolences if I'm to avoid going through an entire box of tissues in my shift.
Now if only I could get the chat to work. Unless only the lounge is open? It seems to have let me in as far as the lounge, but no one else is there. I posted a query about difficulties with the chat registration in the FAQ thread, but haven't seen a reply.
Thanks again for the warm reception. It helps to know that others have been through this as well, not that I'd want that for anyone else.
Sending you many hugs, I am so very sorry for your loss and although a sad time, welcome to Belly Belly.
I went through my miscarrige only last week and it has been the most terrible, sad, scary experience I have ever been through.
Talking about it helps and I have found the support of Belly Belly users has been fantastic.
I cannot tell you things will get better, I am only just going through this and wondering this myself... but the sun surely will start shining again, and your angel baby will come back to you.
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