MIscarried twice, result : 1 livebirth

[white]

Hi there,

I really don't know how to approach his other than it is so difficult to have gone through 2 miscarriages with the same person, to have one livebirth, and for them to leave you and your child.

Background:

First miscarriage: he intentionally would rive crazy and drove over a huge pothole, Miscarried 10 minutes later

Second miscarriage: Chasing me with a hose(was supposed to be summertime fun), fell over a rock and onto hard conrete, miscarried 5 hours later.

Livebirth: Push me into a door, down a flight of stairs an onto the ground, all while he claimed to love me and want to marry me.

I just need some advice. Those children that I miscarried... it was for natural cause? I have gone to counselling and not even brought his up, but it hurts me.

Can anyone offer any advice or suggestions?

Thank you.

[BekZ]

Firstly I am so sorry that you had to endure such horrific abuse. I can't tell you if your miscarriages where due to the injuries you suffered. I think that question should be put to your doctor.

Secondly, please get the heck away from this person. He has not honored you at all, let alone the precious gifts you created.

The best thing your ex could do is get lots of help and leave you alone.

Hugs

[white]

Thank you. It is actually nice to hear this from an objective perspective. I am 32 and finding it hard enough to cope with the fact I have one livebirth and 2 miscarriages from the same person.

Firstly I am so sorry that you had to endure such horrific abuse. I can't tell you if your miscarriages where due to the injuries you suffered. I think that question should be put to your doctor.

Secondly, please get the heck away from this person. He has not honored you at all, let alone the precious gifts you created.

The best thing your ex could do is get lots of help and leave you alone.

Hugs

[Trish]

It's a fair guess that the abuse you suffered caused you to miscarry. Far too much of a coincidence otherwise for me.

The best thing you can do for your daughters and yourself is to stay as far away from this man as posible. You know what. Great that he is saying he isn't the father. DO you really want a man like that fathering your children ? By staying in an environment like that you are only showing your daughters that it's ok to be treated like a piece of dirt and will come to allow that of themselves as they grow up.

Joining some support groups is a great way to help rebuild your esteem, having a life with gf's and not relying on this man is a good thing for you. Make your girls your world but don't forget you need a life too.

Goodluck.

[PamyK]

Hi, I'm so sorry for what you and both your girls have been through. But I totally agree with the other ladies. My biological father was mentally and physically abusive towards myself and my brothers, but despite that I still tried to have a relationship with him - I now have many many many issues to deal with - it would have been better for everyone if he had of just dissapeared, - yes everyone deserves to know who their father is - but that's what photo's are for, especially if it's going to save them in the long run - stay away from him - and if he comes back into your daughters life latter on - she will be able to figure out that if he truly loved her and was a good person he wouldn't have fought paternity and walked away. Be open and honest with your girls. You will find the right man for you and your girls, and in the mean time when you need a hug and a kiss, look to your girls, they are the most important thing to you now.

[Aranah]

I'm so sorry.

To me, from what you have said, I think it's a positive that he is denying being the father.

Run run away, take your girls and don't look back. They are safe now, as are you and from what you've said it's a good thing that he doesn't want to be a father with your newest daughter, considering that he has made inappropriate contact with your older daughter.

Please protect yourself and your family.

There is a domestic violence section on this forum which is private. If you want to join there you can discuss your situation in private with women who have been through similar things.

I'm so sorry, I'm very sad for you and your daughters. They are what matters now, I hope this hideous man stays away from you and them.

[Lulu]

RUN AWAY, RUN AWAY, RUN AWAY

Get yourself out of this "relationship" NOW. You have nothing to lose.

Please talk about this with your therapist NOW. Sorry I am yelling a bit......

Are you in Australia?

[Evie76]

I can only reiterate what the other girls have said.

Get out of there - if not for yourself, for your children. Protect them and teach them that men like that are not to be "toyed" with.