oh sweety, i am so sorry for the loss of your baby. this is a type of pain that you can live through, but you will never forget. obviously, we wanted to try again as soon as possible after we lost our son. ask your doctor what time frame is recommended and that should clear some things up. i also wondered about my dh and if i could help him with his pain at all because i didn't see it after the first couple of weeks. he does feel it, but he doesn't show it the same way. men are simply different than women, and i have decided that is such a good thing. it seems awkward at first to be grieving differently, but it does have a symmetry that protects each of us and allows each of us to grieve with the support of the other. be good to yourself and allow yourself to live through this grief. xxoom