Any loss is difficult and must be grieved. I remember someone put into context for us after our loss like this:
"You wee on a stick in the morning, and by the afternoon you've planned what school they're going to."

Pregnancy changes the way you plan the next twenty years of your life, more even. The loss of that pregnancy changes it all again, and that is why it is so hard.

Take care of yourself. I hope that your special pot plant grows up big and strong.