My little loss

**Netti** · September 23rd, 2007, 06:44 PM

In ways i feel ashamed to be posting here as im only 4w4d well was, but i need to get this off my chest i guess. I was due for AF last tuesday and ive had faint hpts from monday night. I thought nothing of this as with DS it took a while for them to get darker, so I was sure everything was fine. Ive had no cramping no nothing and I go to the toilet this morning and I wipe and there was blood.Bright red, i thought its ok i'll check again soon im sure its just spotting all normal etc. This was 8.30 this morning and the bleeding hasn't stopped and its still bright red and i still haven't had any cramping??? Im just finding it hard that this is happening to me, im going to the drs 2moro for a blood test, but im more than sure its over, im just in abit of shock. Hoping the pain eases as time goes bye, thanx for reading

***Nikki*** · September 23rd, 2007, 06:48 PM

Netti - i just wanted to say to you again that im so sorry hun

**Beach Mama** · September 23rd, 2007, 06:55 PM

Oh hun, dont feel ashamed for posting at all. A loss is a loss, no matter how early it happens, and is just as heartbreaking. :hugs: to you for tomorrow.

**Netti** · September 23rd, 2007, 07:20 PM

Thanx so much. I was just reading the stories of people who have had losses far greater along than me and it has helped ease the pain, thanx for the kind words and support

**briggsy's girl** · September 23rd, 2007, 07:38 PM

netti, like you, i had a loss at 4w4d last month - and just cos it was early, doesnt mean it didnt hurt. you have every right to be upset and to come here for support.

i too felt like my loss wasnt as bad as so many other ladies here, but i have come to the realisation that it is still going to hurt, and comparing my own hurt to that of someone else is disrespecting myself and my angel baby. yes, your loss was early, but for you for right now, that pain is real and you need to let yourself feel that hurt/anger/grief/loss.

i'm so sorry you're going through this hun

BG

**butterfly_warrior** · September 23rd, 2007, 08:07 PM

There's no such thing as a little loss, Netti. A loss is a loss whether you have known for 4 weeks or 4 days or 4 minutes. It hurts - and there's no point in trying to convince yourself that it shouldn't. Tried that - doesn't work.

I'm so sorry that you have gone through this.

BW

**cheekyfrog** · September 23rd, 2007, 08:18 PM

Sorry again, Netti, for your loss. Don't be ashamed about posting about it - we all know how exciting it is to see that second line on a HPT. So many hopes and dreams are tied to that BFP. Sending you lots of hugs and thinking of you.

**MistyFying** · September 23rd, 2007, 08:06 PM

Netti big

for you. Every loss matters. Your experiences are no less significant than anyone elses.

**ElleJay** · September 23rd, 2007, 08:15 PM

netti - wow i'm so sorry

**Nicambhar** · September 23rd, 2007, 08:21 PM

Netti - Every loss means something, so don't you feel any shame. Look after yourself.. xx

**mrsmac** · September 23rd, 2007, 08:24 PM

Every loss hurts hun so you have every right to feel grief. Hugs to you.

**Netti** · September 23rd, 2007, 09:03 PM

Thankyou so much ladies- your words of support have brung tears to my eyes to know that you are here to support me and help me during this time, thanx

**treelo** · September 23rd, 2007, 09:16 PM

Im so sorry hun, you have every right to post here and to grieve, a loss, no matter how far along, is a terrible loss. Hugs to both you and your DH.

treelo

**Liviam** · September 23rd, 2007, 09:48 PM

Netti so sorry for the loss of your little angel. Sending you heaps of hugs for your appt tomorrow.

**Celsie** · September 23rd, 2007, 09:51 PM

Big hugs sweetie. :hugs:

Celsie. xoxox

**Shanti** · September 23rd, 2007, 10:12 PM

sorry Netti :hugs: i saw your post earlier today in the 1-6mths ttc thread and i was wondering how you were today actually. i'm so sorry this has happened to you.
I hope that with time it will ease the pain for you... good luck 2moro at the doc appt. we're thinking of you.

Peach · September 24th, 2007, 10:34 AM

Netti. I really feel for you. Don't feel ashamed because you were 4 w 4 d. I had an experience similar to yours. We had been trying to concieve for about 15 months and as soon as I saw the positive on that stick I was already thinking of names etc etc.. and I lost little Mia when she was only 7 weeks. When I wiped and saw blood, I collapsed to the floor. I was so devistated that my husband was unsure whether to try again because it took me so long to get over. I couldnt work. I never believed it would happen to me.
It takes time.
Allow youself to cry for as long as you feel necessary
Don't be scared to try again .... I now have a beautiful 3 month old daughter ... so from an aweful negative experience .... good things do happen
It really helped me to give him/her a name and say good bye.

My heart goes out to you.

Jen

**visitor2** · September 24th, 2007, 10:59 AM

Netti i am so sorry for your loss.

A loss is a loss no matter how long you was pg for. I've had 3 miscarriages and all have them have been before 10wks.