I am so sorry to read your story and had to respond as I can definitely identify with the journey you are now on. I am sorry to hear the other ladies stories in this thread also.

I lost my son Luke in November last year at 21 weeks due to what my ob thinks was IC. I had had a few weeks of gassy crampy feelings but being my first pg I assumed this was normal and due to my bowel getting squished around. I had my 19 week scan 13 days before Luke was born and all was normal ? my cervix measured normal, somewhere between 3.5 - 4cm, (can?t remember exact measurement). I then saw my ob for a routine appt and all was good then too. 5 days later, I woke up feeling the usual crampy feeling and had a bit of blood when I went to the toilet. I went to the hospital and they put the monitor on me and Luke was active and happy. Nobody examined me internally but I was given some pain relief as I was having quite bad tightenings across my stomach and then my waters broke about an hour later. After a couple of hours of no more pain I was sent for an u/s to check my cervix but they saw Luke had passed away and was on his way out of me. The u/s was at 11.15am, he was born at 11.43am.

After a false start in May with a m/c and D&C due to a blighted ovum, I am now just over 10 weeks pg and my ob has been fantastic. He is seeing me every week for peace of mind and did not hesitate to recommend that I have the stitch put in at 14 weeks which I will be doing. Due to the quick labour I had and how quickly my cervix changed between my 19 wk u/s and the day of Luke?s birth, my ob is of the opinion that a ?wait and see? monitoring approach would not be the best option and I trust his judgement. When he told me that if I was his wife, this is what he would be recommending, I was more than happy to go along with his suggestion! My ob is in the Hills area in Sydney.

As for how long it took us to fall pg again ? with the m/c it happened on our 3rd cycle of trying and with this current pg, I fell pg the 1st proper cycle after the D&C (had 1 period then fell).

Good luck with your journey ahead and look after yourself. Sids & Kids have been fantastic support for me and I can?t recommend them highly enough if you need to talk to others who have been through something similar. I hope you have some very good news to share with everyone soon.