I have never had a miscarriage so I can't pretend I know how you feel, but I do know what it's like to be older and feel time slipping away to have a child. It just sucks.
I'm glad you complained about the sonographer. I think sometimes medical staff become a little (or a lot) desensitised. Getting a reminder that you are a human being, not just a patient is a good thing.
Hugs sweetie, grieve as you need to, a loss is a loss no matter what gestation..... and vent any time. Glad you complained about the sonographer - that behaviour is unacceptable. Ask to get a different one next time too, or go somewhere else if you have the option.
Keep strong and keep believing, it will happen.
Go gently as you grieve your little angels, and praying for you for this time and your appointment tomorrow.
Uhm, just wondering whether you've thought about expectant management, if this little bubba doesn't stay? I was all ready for a D&C with my first m/c at 8 weeks, but the obs encouraged me ( also an old chook) to not have a D&C ( obviously it was appropriate medically in my circumstances). I am really glad that I ended up being encouraged to have that opportunity to say goodbye. Yes it was hard, but not quite as clinical as a D&C. Anyway, just thought I'd mention it.
Alison - I must have not been reading properly, so sorry if my earlier post upset you... but why are you petrified of miscarrying naturually?
And about your question about how you cope? You just do, because it's what you've been confronted with. You would never in your wildest dreams/nightmares, think you could ever get through, but in my experience, you do manage to cope with the heartache and all the physical things you have to endure. You will probably be a different person, and your coping may be different to what you expect, but you find a way through. And really why shouldn't you be different? Your world has changed. You will get through. I believe in you.
Hi Dory - you didn't upset me at all not to worry.
Had my follow up scan yesterday and unfortunately bub has shown no improvement so I've come off the progesterone and decided to let nature take it's course after all and miscarry naturally. I've done it twice before, I'm sure I can do it again. Maybe 4th time lucky next time hey. Thanks for kind words everyone, it's nice to know I'm not alone but I wish none of us had to go through this ever. xx
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