I'm so sorry for what you're going through. That woman deserves to be shot - that is just so insensitive and inappropriate. Maybe we go to the same fertility clinic though cos the woman who did my 7 week scan couldn't have been more robotic if she'd tried.
I really hope things work out for you and its not as you fear. Fingers crossed.
Please try not to let the age thing get you down too much. Us old girls can get there - we just need a little more help and the right combinations. I had four losses last year before I got started on the progesterone and pregnyl and now have a sticky bub.
Big hugs to you while you sit out a difficult week.
Oh hun I am hoping that it is good news for you on Friday xoxoxo
Wow what a cow - seriously some people should reconsider where they work....Honestly how would she feel if the shoe was on the other foot... sorry makes my blood boil to hear how you were treated....
My m/c was a natural one and I had spotting for about 4 days of all different shades of red (sorry if that too much!) ... and then on the fourth day it got worse like stretching, period pain and very heavy.....
Hope the next few days pass quickly for you xoxo Sending you lots of love and strength
Wow what an amazing bunch of girls you are, thank you for all your supports. Lulu we probably do go to the same clinic, the ultrasound place isn't actually at the clinic but near by, same as you? Robotic is exactly the word for her, exactly! She didn't even break tone when she said it, I was in and out in 5 minutes literally. I'm glad you have a sticky bubba on board, perhaps I'll go for 4th time lucky, the FS is going to through everything at me next try - not just progesterone but estrogen and something else. They did tell me it's trial and error but still, I'd rather error without miscarriage and just error with no baby thanks!
Hi Chepie and thank you, I'm not entirely sure I'd get bleeding while on the progesterone, I'm hoping it keeps it at bay until I can see the FS, I'm petrified of miscarrying naturally this far down the track, was bad enough at 4 weeks. I remember either talking to you or maybe one of my forum friends mentioned something on one of the other threads after you lost Hugh, how are you doing now? And I see you had another loss on Boxing Day poor girl, that was the day I found out I was pregnant, purely by accident as they'd done my bloods to check my levels after I'd had some early spotting again and wanted to see what i would need for the next month. Anyway I hope you get your BFP soon too xx Seems a lot of us could do with a bloomin big break already!
Last edited by Alison1973; January 25th, 2012 at 12:52 PM.
I'm so sorry you are going through this Alison. I too have been exposed to a sonographer's complete lack of tact when my baby had died. There's no excuse and it makes a difficult time so much harder to bear. I hope all is not as you suspect and there is a take home bub in your future
I'm so sorry for your losses and the treatment that you endured by that nasty u/s technician. Please don't lose hope though, thats what they are an u/s technician certainly not your FS/OB. Best of luck
Alison.
How dreadful! It never ceases to amaze me how insensitve some people can be. She may have dealt with 10 or 20 similar cases that day, it shouldn't matter. This is your baby.
My heart goes out to you.
Hugs sweetie, grieve as you need to, a loss is a loss no matter what gestation..... and vent any time. Glad you complained about the sonographer - that behaviour is unacceptable. Ask to get a different one next time too, or go somewhere else if you have the option.
Keep strong and keep believing, it will happen.
Go gently as you grieve your little angels, and praying for you for this time and your appointment tomorrow.
Uhm, just wondering whether you've thought about expectant management, if this little bubba doesn't stay? I was all ready for a D&C with my first m/c at 8 weeks, but the obs encouraged me ( also an old chook) to not have a D&C ( obviously it was appropriate medically in my circumstances). I am really glad that I ended up being encouraged to have that opportunity to say goodbye. Yes it was hard, but not quite as clinical as a D&C. Anyway, just thought I'd mention it.
Alison - I must have not been reading properly, so sorry if my earlier post upset you... but why are you petrified of miscarrying naturually?
And about your question about how you cope? You just do, because it's what you've been confronted with. You would never in your wildest dreams/nightmares, think you could ever get through, but in my experience, you do manage to cope with the heartache and all the physical things you have to endure. You will probably be a different person, and your coping may be different to what you expect, but you find a way through. And really why shouldn't you be different? Your world has changed. You will get through. I believe in you.
Hi Dory - you didn't upset me at all not to worry.
Had my follow up scan yesterday and unfortunately bub has shown no improvement so I've come off the progesterone and decided to let nature take it's course after all and miscarry naturally. I've done it twice before, I'm sure I can do it again. Maybe 4th time lucky next time hey. Thanks for kind words everyone, it's nice to know I'm not alone but I wish none of us had to go through this ever. xx
People just don't get it and I guess it's nice that they don't..... Cause if you get it it means you've felt it. And we wouldn't wish that on anyone. So I guess I'm saying come in here and vent. You will never be told to get over it, move on or it was for the best.
Bugger off it was. It hurts and they were your babies
I am so sorry you are feeling this pain of and empty womb, arms and heart
Alison, I've only just seen your thread. Hun, I'm so sorry it's not better news.
I can't believe how you were treated earlier this week ... it was unprofessional and, frankly, appalling. You deserved better and I'm glad your Ob is putting in a complaint.
Please take care of yourself - I'll be thinking of you, xxx
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