I'm so very sorry for the loss of your little one be gentle on yourself and give yourself the time you need to grieve so many people just don't know what to say when it comes to miscarriage, so they don't say anything at all. If only they knew it's not what they say, it's just being *there* that can help.
I am so sorry I found out at 11 weeks and 5 days that the baby was gone (via u/s) but i started bleeding at 11wks and 3 days too.
I know u feel alone, its hard when ppl dont understand, (it didn't really hit my partner hard until this loss) but know that u aren't. There are so many ppl that have never met u and feel ur pain......it doesnt help straight away, nothing does, but i know writing it down on BB and having ppl reply validated my feelings, which does bring comfort to me now. Its also really hard to grieve with a 2 yr old (i have one too- 14/02/08), and i felt guilty for being so upset in front of him, but a dear friend of mine said to me that even though my baby isn't here anymore, i still have to divide time between them because they are both my children. I agree with that. Take care, i am here if u need to talk
xox
that is sooo sad i really hope you feel better soon even though it will take time ive had loses also and i know the pain of thinking about the future that they were meant to be involved in...
it seems our hospitals are really starting to fail us pregnant mothers in so many ways due to the fact that even though you showed up producing signs of m/c they still sent you home due to it being a weekend and low amounts of dr's... this is the worst part... i cant believe that you had to go through that at all.. i thought when you present with thesse sympotms you were meant to be a priority.. im sure they still have the equipment on at all times for emergencies ie. emergency room!!
i wish it had of been a different outcome and that you were still in bliss..
your angel will always be with you forever i believe they are your guardian angel...
i hope ur DS and DH will all be ok also **big hugs**
Last edited by *Sparklez*; September 16th, 2010 at 09:27 PM.
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What you are going through is real, it matters and it has to be validated.
I'm so so sorry for your loss, and although you haven't had the support you needed in RL, please know that my heart goes out to you. I hope by sharing this with us, we can relieve even the tiniest amount of the burden of your pain and as each day goes on, your hopes raise again for the future, and the sorrow of today becomes less and less intense.
Never feel like you have to forget your baby! You were, are, and always will be that angel baby's mother. You deserve to take great pride in that.
Being stuck can really feel like there is no way out, no light at the end of your tunnel. Even though it probably doesn't 'matter' to you now, I urge you to keep in the back of your mind that as each day goes on, you can allow a little more happiness in.
You're lucky to have a hubby who loves you, and I know, they think differently, react differently and express things differently to us, but in his heart of hearts, he has probably been at a loss of how to help you. Sometimes, nothing helps, and he probably knows this.
Nothing will replace your baby, and nothing should.
It's time to take care of yourself. Let yourself heal. Cry, laugh, scream....Anything that lets you have a release. I will never understand why grief is so hard when it is something every person will experience in our lives, but take what you can get from it and remember that beautiful baby and keep your heart alive with love.
Take care, sleep well and know that you have like-souls here who will help you carry the weight of your burden when you don't think you can carry it alone anymore.
I was in the TTC thread with you when you got your BFP (I think I had a different name then incase you don't recognize me), and I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am that this has happened to you.
I'm not sure what else to say so I will just send you some more
I understand your feeling of being alone...no-one can quite understand the silent pain thats felt during and after a miscarriage except for those that have experienced it. Although you feel alone, I hope you find some comfort in the words people have shared here.
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take one day at a time and look after yourself. xxx
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