Lanabear, perhaps you can have a nice brunch at home if you want to avoid crowds with children present. Depending on how much you enjoy doing crafts, you could make a shadowbox or something similar for your DP with items that can help remind you of your precious Matilda. Scrapbooking kits have neat pictures and lettering, too.

I can relate to the sleep deprivation. I'm still not sleeping well myself since I lost our first pregnancy about a week ago. My thoughts and prayers are with you and all the mothers here who have experienced losses--take care.