I am so sorry for your loss
I had tears while reading your story.The treatment you received at the hospital is despicable.No one should ever have to go through something like that.
I wish you all the best for the future.
Thanks, Laura. Now I'm in the 8th week of a new pregnancy and have already been to the emergency clinic a couple times. The treatment I received has been much better. The two nurses that met me last week introduced themselves and looked at me and talked to me, told me exactly why they were taking blood, came back to update me on how long I might have to wait... so different. I hope that nurse from last time has been moved to floor mopping duty or something!
Tildy, congratulations on your new pregnancy! I hope & pray that in 8 months from now we'll be hearing about your beautiful new arrival who won't be able to totally erase the pain of losing your tiny angel, but can help you write a new future.
I am absolutely HORRIFIED at your story that led up to the loss of your angel. So pleased to hear you are getting much better treatment this time around. Couldn't help but *LOL* at your suggestion that you hope the 1st horrible nurse is now mopping the floors!
Congratulation Tildy.
I am so happy to hear that the treatment you are receiving this time around is a lot better.
I wish you so much luck for a H&H pregnancy.
I recently lost one of my twins at 14.5 weeks, much like yours...going to the bathroom. terrible trauma. Im so sorry for your loss and I will pray for you new pregnancy. I think the reality is you will be scared much of the time....I'm still pregnant with my "twin B" and everything scares me, especially using the toilet. I have so many fears, but lots of hope. I think one of the challanges if finding people who understand the fear...this is the first time I'm ever doing a "Chat" and really came here because I feel very lonely....So reading your post, I know I'm not alone and nor are you. Please keep us posted
I know what you mean about fearing bathrooms, Mel! I'm naturally a bit constipated now at the beginning of this pregnancy, and I just have a real phobia of really "pushing" on the toilet...
How long ago was it that you lost "twin A"? Are things looking good for twin B? It must be very hard; I wish you loads of strength!
I can not beleive the way you were treated. That is unbeleivable and i am so sorry you had to go through that and be treated that way.
I can sort of relate to it in a small way. When we had our little girl we lost at 19wks 5 days (in september 2005), we got a letter saying they had her prints for us and to ring to arrange a time to pick them up. The day we had her, we requested she be cremated and her ashes buried with all the other babies from that month and were told it would be a couple of weeks before they did it and they would contact us so we could attend the ceremony of them going in the rose garden. I rang about the prints and asked if we had a date yet for the cremation/ceremony, i was told to hang on a minute and the lady came back on the phone and said "Yes, last thursday". I was crushed and it took away my way of proper closure. I also wasnt offered any grief counselling, which proved to not be good for me. But i am lucky in the fact that i got her prints.
What you went through is terrible.
I am happy to hear you are pregnant again and i hope it goes well for you. I am also happy to hear they are giving you the best of care.
I had another baby 14 mths after my late loss and it went well. I have just had another one since then too and that went well too. Both times i got the best of care and alot of compassion when i felt anxious about things. Its good to hear you are getting the same, because that is what you deserve.
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