Oh, krisso, I'm so sorry! The experience is very different for everyone. For me it was 2 days after I found out I was m/c that I passed everything. In my case I was 8 wks, but the cramps during m/c were pretty bad for me--just like regular delivery. Also had contractions in my back, but I had them when I delivered both my boys, also, so I was expecting that. You may have none of that, it's always different. But it took 3 weeks for my hcg levels to go down, and had to have 4 different blood test to make sure the level was still going down. Some women, though, are back down to 0 the day after they m/c, so it really varies. It's normal for some women to still feel like they're pregnant or even continue having symptoms even after everything has passed due to the hormones. I bled for 5 days, and it was heavier than my usual cycles. My dr. told me to wait 2 mo's, but after much research I've read that there's no real reason why a woman has to wait to conceive again. I decided for myself that there was no way I could wait 2 mo's! It's probably best to at least wait for 1 cycle, but I've read stories of some women who've posted on these threads that they got pg before they even had their first AF! I think it's a personal decision that's different for every woman--you'll know what's right for you in your heart. Your feelings will be all over the place for quite a while. Some days will be better than others. I can understand that you don't want anyone feeling sorry for you, but you definitely need some sort of support throughout this! You're definitely at the right place! Don't be afraid to ask any questions, and there's nothing we haven't heard, so don't feel embarrassed either. Would love to see you over in the TTC after m/c thread whenever you're ready. Take the time you need to grieve, and try to remember that it will get better over time. Be patient with yourself, and don't expect too much of yourself right now. I hope I answered at least some of your questions, but remember, not every woman's journey is the same, so don't ever feel abnormal if yours doesn't mirror somebody else's. My prayers are with you! One more thing, the most important thing to realize during this time is that it's not your fault, and there was nothing you could have done to change what happened--you can't beat yourself up about it. God bless you!