Hi flutterby,

I'm sorry for your loss, no matter how early, it is still a loss. The reason why men respond/grieve differently (and sometimes they appear like it hasn't affected them at all) is b/c they weren't experiencing the pg symptoms, so it wasn't REAL to them. Be gentle with yourself and your hubby.
And about the fear of trying again as the m/c might happen again? Yes, it is a very real fear, I have it too, but I came to the conclusion that I want to add to my family, I want an earth baby, and if I don't try and take the fear head on, I will never have the baby I dream of.
So take your time, and when you're ready to TTC, I wish you lots of luck and hope your dream comes true.

Beata.