I am 42 and have 2 older kids from a previous marriage(18, 14) and a 4 yr old from my 2nd marriage. I became pregnant in Jan. a few days before my 42nd bday. (husband is 33) We were so excited and although I felt so sick all day and night, completely wiped out physically and had brown spotting for the first week, I thought the pregnancy would be fine. We had 2 sonograms because they had trouble finding the heartbeat.(my uterus was high or tipped,which I had never heard before) Both sonograms were measuring fine with a HB. The last was done 3 days(March 26th)before the baby died. The appt. was fine, I had a slight headache for 3 days and still felt tired and nauseous, but all my bloodwork was fine, etc. On March 28th, I started cramping,(like gas pains)nothing major, I ignored it. It went away and started the morning of the 29th. I ignored it, laid around and then in the afternoon, had to pee and felt a gush of fluid with pressure. It was amniotic fluid and within a minute, bright red blood. Never in my life have I seen so much blood. After a sonogram at the hospital, I had to have a D&E. I am just shocked and sad. Everything goes through your mind. The lunchmeat I didn't heat up, the sushi I ate before I knew, etc.. We had just told our families on Easter Sunday because I wanted to be sure. I would have been 14 weeks today. I also had a fetile demise in 1995(my 1st marriage), it also was so shocking because I was 19 wks and went for a routine appt(29 years old), there was no HB and the baby stopped growing at 17 weeks. I had to have a D&E then also because my marriage was basically over and I felt emotionally I couldn't handle going through delivery.(I regret that now)
I would love to hear from someone who has had similar situations and gone on to have another child. I feel very old and wonder if I should tempt fate again. The Dr. told me that I can't count these losses as 2 in a row, due to a healthy baby in 2003. I feel that something isn't right, maybe thyroid, clotting, progesterone.(Dr. doesn't feel progesterone is necessary, may find new Dr.)I seemed to have trouble conceiving this time,(took 6 mos)but found it strange that I felt so good with my 3 kids' pregnancies but didn't feel well at all with these 2 losses.?
Thanks for reading this, any imput would be wonderful.