A spirtual look at loss

[Tobily]

Odette sweetie I know exactly how you feel....although my DH is adamant he doesn't want any more children I have this nagging feeling that there is still another little girl waiting to join our family.

I don't know if I'll ever get to meet her either, but I don't think it's selfish of us at all - mother's just know these things. Hugs to you

[tempus moriendi]

Note to Clairebear: DON'T DON'T DON'T torture yourself now because of things you thought when you were a teenager. You come from a Christian background--you know God doesn't play "gotcha!" with us. But we all can't help but wonder when we feel down-and-out if something we thought or did years ago is causing our problems now. That's so normal and so human.

Note to Odette: there's nothing selfish about wanting another baby. No matter how many children we have, we never feel that we can spare one...

[scooby]

Odette i have those same niggles i feel i'm meant to have a girl and i,m pretty sure it will happen (even with one fallopian tube) and i think she will come to me very soon. I think that why i get so annoyed when people tell me i should be grateul that i have my son, and dont get me wrong cause i am so grateful, but it doesnt mean when then have to be abandoned. Anyways i wanted to share (sorry yes again) a little prose i found if you read my AAAgghhhh story in the other thread i found this last night when i was really upset. I have a book called guide for the advanced soul and you think of something them turn to a page and it gives you some words of wisdom and this is what i got last night. it was soooooo appropiate

[I]No soul that aspires
can ever fail to rise,
no heart that loves
can ever be abondoned.

Difficulties exist only
that in overcoming them
we may grow strong.
And they only who
have suffered
are able to save. (everyone at BB)

[MelbourneGirl]

I just want to say thank you so very much for this thread. I am currently pregnant with my first baby - but have lost three angels along the way. I believe that my angel babies are waiting in heaven for my DH and I, and are looking out for the baby brother/sister now growing inside of me. I truly went through very dark periods after the loss of each baby - I remember all too well crying to DH that all I wanted was a baby. I too tried to look it all in a spiritual way, I think that it helped me to cope.
After my third loss I too went and saw a psychic - she told me that my next pregnancy would be OK - that this baby is a boy (though we are not finding out the sex - after all that we have been through we felt that we want a surprise at the end), and that he will be healthy. So far, she has been correct. She also recommended that I see a naturopath - which is what I did, and I truly credit my naturopath with helping me to get pregnant with this bub.