Dory,

Thanks so much for your reply, your advice is, as always, so relevant and sound. I really am grateful of the time you have taken to share it.

Your insight into my BFs perspective is so valuable. I think it will be a challenge for BF and I, but knowing her incredible generousity and openess I think it will be me who has to find a way to support her pg without cracking up. I think it's cards-on-the-table time for us both. I'm never great with these get-your-feelings-out-there conversations but she means enough to me to just get on with it.

As for another great piece of advice you've given, I have taken some steps towards finding a counseller as I was a bit taken aback at my reaction and how I've been feeling since she told me. I thought I was moving forward but think I might have just been distracting myself.

It sounds like you have had a difficult journey with your friends too but it is encouraging you have managed to keep the communication going whilst going through so much heartache. I guess all these things take time and patience.

Thanks again,
C.x