thread: Tomorrow...

  1. #1
    Registered User

    Apr 2008
    Oklahoma
    34

    Unhappy Tomorrow...

    I should be giving birth to my child tomorrow. However I'm not. My due date was Sept. 3, also my birthday . I lost my child on March 1 at 13 weeks and have done pretty well the last several months, but this week has been sooo hard. I'm not sure what to do with myself. I don't want to be sad, my DF says that the baby is with the Lord right now, but it dosent make this any easier...
    Last edited by loopy_girl21; September 3rd, 2008 at 06:05 AM.

  2. #2
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    Dec 2005
    5,951

    I am so sorry for your loss. Maybe do something special with DH in memory of your angel. Happy Birthday, I do hope you manage to smile today.

  3. #3
    Registered User

    Apr 2008
    Oklahoma
    34

    Thanks... I want to do something special, I'm just not sure what... any ideas?

  4. #4
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    Dec 2005
    5,951

    Many women on here have talked about planting a tree in memory of their angel/s.
    I've only just woken up, so that's all I can think of right now.
    The pain will ease over time, but your bub will never be forgotten.

  5. #5
    Registered User

    Apr 2008
    Oklahoma
    34

    Thanks.... I will look into doing that....

  6. #6
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    Dec 2007
    Geelong
    3,438

    Hi,
    So sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you, especially at this time when you were due to give birth. Take care of you and remember your precious angel is always close to your heart. It would be nice to do something special like planting a tree, lighting a candle or creating a memory box with anything special to place inside.
    Happy birthday I hope you can have a nice day.

    Regards,
    Dianne

  7. #7
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    Nov 2006
    Somewhere Over The Rainbow
    3,094

    I am so sorry to hear you are going through this.

    When i lost my second I made a little "boat", popped a little birthday candle in it (didnt want t to burn for too long and start any fires down the way), took the little boat to a local river and lit the candle. Then we watched the little boat float away down the river, was kinda a release to say goodbye.


  8. #8
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    Mar 2008
    California
    1,665

    Hey hon... long time no talk to! You're in my thoughts and today, as is your angel baby! I'm feeling your pain, as I should be giving birth on Friday. Our losses were so close together, I feel like we're on the same journey here! I hope you found a special way to honor your lost angel today... I also hope you somehow managed to have a I know it's really hard--remember my m/c was the day before my b-day? I'm not sure what I'll do on Friday... I keep thinking if I ignore it, it won't come, wishful thinking, I know. So, I'm right where you are... I know exactly how you feel... please let me know if there's anything I can do for you! Do you still have my e-mail? I'm thinking of you and saying lots of prayers for you and your angel!

  9. #9
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    Jun 2007
    Melbourne, Victoria
    500

    Look after yourself on what would have been your babys' EDD. Allow yourself to stop and remember your child.

  10. #10
    Registered User

    Apr 2008
    Oklahoma
    34

    Thanks everyone soo much... Today has been really hard, but I think that me and the DF are going to pick out a nice candle and light it every year... jen, I have lost your e-mail but you should e-mail me soon. I'm thinking of you to because I know that your date was close to mine and your birthday... I'm trying not to think about it alot, but you guys know that it's impossible... Thank you for the prayers, I'm needing them.

  11. #11
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    Oct 2007
    Brisbane
    320

    Sweetheart these dates are going to force us to live through pain again. Know that this is natural and right as you miss your child and are still grieving. Good luck today and know we are here for you.
    Adele

  12. #12
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    Oct 2007
    Middle Victoria
    8,924

    I have released brightly coloured helium balloons in memory of a lost child. It always make me smile watching them float away. It's kinda like i am sending the balloons up to them.

    take care,

    kate

  13. #13
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    Nov 2004
    Chasing Daylight...
    2,034

    I'm sorry for your loss

  14. #14
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    Dec 2007
    melbourne
    200

    hi!
    please take care as it can be a hard day although i have found the lead up to it much worse. With Jacks EDD I went to our local lake and i also have a candle that was made with his name and birthdate, and lit at his service. This way i have something that is his that i can light each year. I will do the same for Madison in dec.
    sending you hugs...
    x

  15. #15
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    Apr 2008
    Oklahoma
    34

    Thanks to everyone... Today has not been great, but better than what I thought. I was very busy this morning and afternoon, but tonight seems so very hard... Thanks to everyone for the support.