So sorry to hear of your loss, it must have been heartbreaking to have lost both at seperate times
I know what its like when you are told they have found a heartbeat and you are fine. You breath that sigh of relief and relax............only to be told shortly after your baby has passed. I think that blow makes it hit so hard and makes it very hard for you to trust again. I had that happen to me, i relaxed for a week, only to go to my 19wk scan and be told my baby had passed and for a while now, so when i was told she was ok, she had been gone then. I find it so hard to trust because of that.
Please take your time to grieve, its very important. And talk about them as much as you want to. And do as many things as you feel you need to, to preserve their memory. There is a wonderful memorial website you can create, if you havent already. PM me for the link if you would like it.
I am so sorry for your loss hun, it is the same for a woman who has lost a baby at 6 weeks, or 12 weeks or 20 weeks! The loss we feel is so real, as our litle baby is no longer here. I lost my son at 20 weeks, but I would have been just as devastated if I lost him earlier.
It's OK to want another baby soon after a loss. It's only been 5 months for me since I lost Joshua but for the last 3 I have so longed to be pregnant again. I don't want to replace my little boy, he was here for a very short time, and his mission here on earth has been accomplished. I long for another baby because I would love to raise a family of my own. I don't have any earth children of my own (although my DF has 3 adult grown up from his first marriage). Having your partner's kids in your life is just not the same. I want to change pooey napies, soothe my crying baby, and all the other bits that come with having a baby!! I am so ready!!
So don't feel guilty, it is a strong desire for so many women, and for women like us, and nothing should stop us achieving our dream.
I wish you the very best in achieving your pregnancy, and being able to hold that beautiful bub in your arms soon.
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