ditto what nell said! one of my best friends got a BFP the same day i did (my birthday) and was due one day before i was. unfortunately i lost my bubba very early, and we went through a hard patch where she was trying to protect me and i was trying to tell her i was ok, and wanted to be a part of her pregnancy. so i was honest. i told her that it hurt like all hell to have lost our angel, and i was angry at the world, but that i was still her friend, and wanted to celebrate the life she was creating. i told her there would be days when i wouldn't cope, and she'd need to take her lead from me - but that she had to not pussy foot around me - i'd tell her when i wasn't coping (which i do). she is due mid January, and i know i'll be overjoyed for her when her little boy arrives, but my heart will be breaking at the same time. the first time i see her baby, it will tear me up because i should have a bubba too - but it will be something i will deal with...