For me, as nice as the flowers were, and they do express peoples thoughts and feelings, but they too die and this made me feel sort of sad. I preferred a card and a donation to SIDS. One thing some of my work mates got me was a nice candle with my DD’s name on it and a poem. I also liked the flowers that came with a pot or a vase as it didn’t make me feel like they were kind of wasted. Different things for different people. Some people have also bought us plants, these are great if you like that sort of thing, but again for me I can never seam to keep them alive, so it’s not a good thing, but you can’t tell people that, you just except it with a smile. So sorry for your friends loss, I hope they can support each other well during this hard time.