Hi everybody. I am new to this forum. I guess like most people here I am here to share my painful story and seek some sort of support of anyone who has been through a similar experience.

I am 33 yrs old and have always had irregular periods, so I wasn't too surprised when we couldn't fall pregnant even after a year of trying. I spoke to my Dr and he was going to start me on the ovulation induction tablets, but we just decided to wait a while longer before we take that path. When nothing had supposedly happened after about 6 months, I went back to him and came out armed with few types of pills. He advised me to take a preg test before I start taking these (just in case!) and it was positive!! Joy of joys. We were so happy. I had been pregnant for about 8 weeks before I found out (thanks to my irregular periods). The joy of seeing your baby's heartbeat for the first time! I had a dating scan at 10 weeks and then the NT scan at 12 weeks.
So we were happily pregnant (with our first child) for 4 weeks - until the NT scan (and subsequent CVS test) showed that our baby was affected by trisomy 13! These abnormalities are 'incompatible with life' and 'our choice of what to do is easy' - according to the Dr. So, in a space of three days (the CVS was done on Wednesday and the curette on Friday) we went from happy loving expectant parents looking forward to our future together, to two people feeling empty, deceived and so sad! It is so frightening and it doesn't make sense, especially given how long it took us to conceive. The universe has such a nasty sense of humour sometimes: we had such a small chance to conceive and that resulted in conceiving a baby affected by such an uncommon abnormality. I don't know how we are supposed to deal with it, all I know is that we are just not supposed to know the reason as to why it has happened. And I didn?t know that the pain we are experiencing was actually possible. It makes it that much worse to deal with it and understand it as my sister and two of my best friends are pregnant at the moment. So here it is, my story. I do hope that people will find it motivating (at some level). Thanks for reading - it certainly made me feel a bit better (for the time being) telling my story. All the best.