The world wasn't ready for my bub

[Manhattan]

Liv, I am very sorry that this happened to you and your husband

[jackrose]

I am really greatful for your story and think you have done a wonderful job getting your experiences across. I understand the clinical nature of your story and think it is quite a powerful statement never-the-less. It makes it a bit easier to read as I am sure it also made it a bit easier to write and a bit easier to experience. I have not been through a miscarriage but i have a primal sort of fear in the pit of my stomach when I think about it as I am sure most women do. I think your story is really helpful to take the secretive shroud of mystery off the 'goings on' and it certainly helps me get a glimpse of what friends have gone through. Thank you.

I am of course very sad to hear that you did have to go through this. Losing a baby at any time must be terrible, definitely not fair when you have really begun to bond with your little one. If you are upset for having told family and friends, at least having them know shares the emotions and grief around a little bit, meaning that they are there to support you. The way I think about it is that even though your little one was not with you for long, there was already a huge amount of love for them and that love is now there for you and your DH as you work through your experience, grieve and rebuild to try again. I imagine it is not easy to know that others are sad also but at least you are not suffering alone with those close to you confused as to why you are upset.

In regards to your mother, I bet she will wish she was here with you to hold your hand at this challenging time. I would tell my mum that she should stay in the moment on that holiday there is nothing she can do now but to save all of that maternal energy she has for when she returns so she can support you as you try again and through the early days of your next pregnancy. All of the little things she is picking up for your baby will still be for your baby, the one who is yet to come. I hope that makes sense and is not offensive. I send you lots of love and positive spirit.